Episode 92 – The Art of Surrender
Michelle Rogers, ND, MSAOM, FDN-P
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Hey there, and welcome back to another episode of The WELLthy Woman podcast, I am your host, Michelle, and today, I want to chat with you about a topic that runs near and dear to my heart. I recently posted on Instagram that really resonated with a lot of women.
The quote said, “If you don’t take time to recharge, you won’t have time to take charge”, and the caption was all about how wearing “busy” as a badge of honor actually isn’t serving you at all.
It’s just a distraction from the work that REALLY moves the dial forward — whether it be in business, in our relationships, our introspection, our community or our health.
In all honesty, I’ve never had a response quite like this on social — and as women were genuinely commenting and sharing this post, it hit me.
We’re all striving for the same thing — we want the freedom to take charge of our own life.
This means figuring out what’s actually going on inside of our body, so we can make informed and empowered choices around our health.
This means thinking, feeling and acting in a way that is in alignment with our goals and dreams.
This means letting go of the identify you’ve created around how you think, feel and act up until now, so you can get out of the stagnant monotony and create something new.
BUT we’re addicted to the struggle.
We’re addicted to having our thoughts, feelings and actions reinforced by predictable outcomes.
We’re addicted to the desire to do it on our own — many of us are entrepreneurs, after all, so being Miss Independent has served us well, right?
Sure, to a point.
The thing is, this reinforced behavior — this need to have everything under control, to take care of it ourselves — has wired our brain to keep us in a state of heightened alert — our primal response to survival.
This leaves us with a perception that we thrive on competition, status, productivity and being “busy”, when in actuality, all we really want is to surrender.
And I don’t mean surrender, like give up.
I mean surrender in the sense of allowing more space, self-care, connection with others, nourishment, healing and slowing down.
I mean surrender in the sense of asking for help — you don’t have to do everything on your own.
This is the art of delegation, right?
When it comes to work, you delegate out the tasks you don’t want to do or you don’t have skills or training in right?
Ideally, you want to stay within your zone of genius, so you don’t waste precious time, energy and money trying to figure it all out on your own.
Take accounting, for example.
I can’t stand doing my bookkeeping or accounting, so I delegate that task to someone who not only enjoys it, but they’re really good at it. This is a win-win situation, because we both end up staying in our zone of genius, and my time, energy and money isn’t wasted distracting me from doing what I love.
The same goes for your health — how much time, energy and money have you wasted reading or listening to books, blogs, articles or podcasts that give you health advice that doesn’t pan out how you would’ve hoped?
You might be passionate about health, which is great, but is your purpose and passion in life? Or do you have another mission on this planet?
Is your mission to transform women’s lives through the art of embodiment?
Is your mission to create products that make self-care doable for new moms?
Is your mission to train other women entrepreneurs how to create a successful online business?
The thing is, we all have a place and our unique gifts can only be shared, when we surrender the need to be in control of everything.
When we’re trying to be in control of everything, we’re being pulled in every which way — to the point where we can’t figure out which way is forward, so we stay stuck, or we have minimal improvements that just keep us afloat.
You’re literally depriving the world of your gifts, when you’re not functioning at your best.
Not getting a full night’s sleep, having mid-afternoon energy crashes, not being able to focus on the task at hand, and not making any headway on your to-do list…
Who does that serve?
It’s not serving you, and it’s DEFINITELY not serving your mission.
It’s time to stop trying to “heal” yourself through generic internet protocols.
It’s time to stop jumping from one half-assed approach to another.
It’s time to stop hiding your struggle from people who care about you.
It’s time to stop putting on that smile and pushing through another day.
It’s time to surrender. Let go of control, and ask for help.
If your current provider doesn’t “get it” or “get” you, then it’s time to move on. You have to trust your provider. You have to KNOW 100% that they have your best interest at heart — that you’re not a number, or a diagnosis, or a stream of revenue.
And when you find that person, you have to commit.
You have to commit to each other, because healing is a partnership.
Yes, your provider can guide you and personalize an approach for you…
Yes, your provider can support you along your journey…
Yes, your provider can (and should!) refine and upgrade your protocol as you improve AND as they continue to gain more knowledge and expertise through continued education
BUT, at the end of the day, YOU’RE the one taking action.
You have to own that responsibility without seeing it as a burden, another distraction, an unneeded expense — if you have that perspective, then what does that say about how you feel about yourself?!
You’re worth it.
You have the time — we ALL have the same 24 hours in a day.
You can create the money.
Remember, the goal is to be free — free to be creative, free to focus your mind and free to move your body.
Being in a true state of health… or better yet… WELLth — W-E-L-L-t-h gives you the freedom to not only pursue but actualize your dreams.
Being in a state of WELLth is living a life full of abundance, purpose, health, wealth and joy.
It is possible to find answers.
It is possible to reconnect with your body.
It is possible to feel like yourself again.
It is possible to be the master of your own destiny.
Your health doesn’t have to hold you back.
Alright, I hope that was helpful — so in SUMMARY
- Let go of control
- Find a provider who resonates with you
- Commit to your healing process
- Create your new life that reflects your goal/live in alignment
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Chat with you then!